If he is not already emotionally bonded (unlikely by date 3), then this sugar crash will leave him empty and ready to move on-in search of a woman who can give him a longer and more sustained hit of happiness. Guess what shuts off the production of dopamine-and therefore that “in love” feeling-in men?Ĭompletion of the sex act. That’s right: having sex can temporarily shut off your man’s seemingly obsessive interest in you. When two people feel a connection, this buzz can be amplified through non-sexual contact such as locking eyes, touching hands, and even simple physical nearness-the “don’t stand so close to me” phenomenon. Here are a few facts to help you commit to saying no until you are sure Prince Charming is all that he seems:Ĭhemicals like dopamine feed the buzz of infatuation in our brains. When you daydream about your crush, the anticipation of being together produces lots of dopamine, which further increases your feeling of infatuation. Listen up, girlfriend, because science is on your side when you wait. It can be hard to trust your intuition and instincts when so much of popular culture implies that sex is Level 1 in the mating game, a stepping stone toward commitment and bonding. But what if I offered you scientific proof that, in fact, the opposite is true?-that in waiting to have sex you’re actually increasing your odds of experiencing lasting attraction and romance. You may be tumbling into an entanglement, instead of advancing a real relationship. TIP: If you believe you need to sleep with a man in order to hold his interest… STOP, think, and slow down. In fact, sometimes he just gets busier and has even less time to hang out with you, afterward.
You fear that if you hesitate, he won’t invest further in your relationship. Yet, experience has shown you that third-date sex doesn’t seem to have any effect on a man’s commitment level. Savvy friends tell you there is an understanding that date #3 is the appropriate time to give it up. You’ve noticed this is usually the stage when a man invites you to his apartment to hang out in the general vicinity of his bedroom. You have the vague idea that waiting to have sex may be the key, but you’re told that withholding sex is manipulative, old fashioned, and not very romantic. You are tired of guys disappearing after you become intimate. You feel ready for a lasting relationship. 5 minutes read YOU may be HAVING ‘CASUAL’ SEX WITHOUT INTENDING TO
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